196: Here’s HOW to Have Those Uncomfortable Holiday Conversations

We’ve been asked a lot about how to have uncomfortable conversations lately - namely, the reality that, yikes, my people are coming over for the holidays and how on earth do I handle it when those uncomfortable, racist, inappropriate comments and jokes come up? (Because let’s be real - they’re coming up.)

While there is no official checklist for success, we DO have quite a number of tips to help guide you and your group into more meaningful, engaging conversations around your holiday table.

If you know our podcast, you know we’re all about action, so we’re re-airing this episode that’s quickly becoming a favorite one for many of our listeners in order to share some of the tips that have worked for us - in order not to avoid these conversations, but to have them in a way that’s authentic, honest, and safe for all of us.

We’d love to hear what’s worked for you too, as you navigate whatever uncomfortable conversations might be coming your way - please drop us a line at hello at dearwhitewomen.com and we might share what’s worked for you on our social!

What to listen for:

Tips for before, during, and after your holiday gatherings

A selection of these tips include:

knowing yourself and your why,

setting healthy boundaries,

using our favorite question “what do you mean by that?”

using “I statements,”

questions you can use to reflect on what worked / didn’t work after the event.

You’ll want to listen to the short episode to get the whole range of how to use these tips and more!

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